A couple of days ago, JJ and his “girlfriend” were talking and laughing and everything, and the next thing I knew, JJ was sad and said that the girl wanted to “just be friends” and the Prom was off. He doesn’t know what happened. It was very sudden. This is really what EJ and I were concerned about–that JJ hadn’t known the girl very long, he hadn’t met her in person, he hadn’t been on a date with her, and suddenly she invited him to the biggest event of high school? We would have preferred that they go on small dates, get to know each other, and then the Prom would be a special date for two real friends. Before we spent $$$ for the Prom, we wanted to make sure this girl was asking our son because she wanted to go with HIM and not merely because she needed a date or because her “preferred” date couldn’t make it. We didn’t want her cancelling at the last minute. High school relationships are messy, with guys and girls jumping from one relationship to another. We weren’t sure JJ was ready for the dramatic mess of it all.
Life sure changes fast. It goes from “not much happening” to “Wow!” within minutes.
This is from an email by Keren Hannah Pryor regarding our study of Pirkei Avot, an ancient Jewish book of ethics and wisdom. I love our study of this book!
Here is another good article on confrontation that was shared in our Pirkei Avot group.
Ugh, I have not been able to get on to this blog to write. Sometimes life is busy, and there is only so many hours in a day.